What are the “Sure things in life?” Death and taxes, right? Forget that old saw, it’s just cynicism. So, are there any sure things in this ever changing world? Is there bedrock on which we can build, or are our lives built on “weak and shifting sand?”
Most folks seem to look at things from a purely negative point of view. Take that standard answer, “Death and Taxes.” Most agree – if there is anything at all you can be sure of, it is bad stuff.
HOGWASH! And that is the most positive thing I can say to that kind of thinking. If you believe I’m wrong you look at life from that a negative perspective. Call it ‘being a realist’ and you are rationalizing. By definition there can be no bad without good, no up without down. For every valley there is a mountain top and within every drop of rain comes the promise of sunshine! It’s an attitude, and it is true.
People are always talking about how ‘stuff’ happens and I don’t mean wonderful stuff either. It is obviously not because of our life experience. We all have both good and bad. Ancient scripture says the rain falls on the just and on the unjust together.
It appears that we ‘choose’ to dwell on the down side. We tell our children what NOT to do rather than what to enjoy doing. Driving is governed by STOP lights, never mentioning the GO lights. Everyone has heard “is the glass 1/2 empty or 1/2 full” but few have made it their own. It is all about how we SEE things. More than that, it’s about how we DECIDE to see things.
How tough will it be? You will be forcing your way upstream against the direction compared to many around you. An uncontrolled attitude practically guarantees more frowns than smiles. Consider, if you go through life seeing (even worse – speaking) only the minus, rarely the plus, just how happy can you be? How happy will others be while in that presence?
When I first started living this as a daily philosophy the reaction of others shocked me. Friends were bothered by my shift in perspective. That is all I did – altered how I looked and talked about things. Let me give you an example. There is no such thing as bad weather. Just different kinds of good weather. And it’s all good in some way! That is not a popular sentiment. So much so, that most of us immediately start talking about things like tornados and earthquakes. Now wait one minute here. When people say that the weather is bad all they usually mean is that it’s not sunny and warm! Forget the extremes! A cloudy day is NOT bad weather. Why call it that and whine about it? Accept what you can not change, change what you can. and smile.
Our existence is measured by how we perceive the world. Can your perception of something you can’t change affect how it life FEELS to you? Of course. Will your life be a different when you look for the bright side? If you actually apply your mental energy to finding the ‘Silver Lining’ to every cloud? Without a doubt. You see, not every cloud has one of those ‘Silver Lining’ things. But MOST do! And if we can train ourselves to look for the good in things, people, circumstances, whatever..WELL, as John Lennon said, “Imagine.”
So what are the Sure Things of Life? We will always have weather. Spring follows Winter. New growth follows cutting back. When the old and tired are wearing down there is a new and exciting freshness moving up. There is always tomorrow, which we can never touch…but we can change today and affect tomorrow. A simple “I’m sorry” can fix a tremendous group of troubles. It will always be difficult to do the right thing, but it is worth it. Plan your work and work your plan and you will prosper in many ways. Give love, and sometimes you will get it back. After all, if you send it out, how can it ever come back? If you don’t have a dream, how can you ever have a dream come true?
There are a lot more. How about if you think of some?
Till next time. Good luck and God Bless. Remember, be a Student of Winning.