I recently had a revelation of sorts….I realized that I’m not perfect. Yeah, I know my kids could have told me that! What I mean is that I I have no problem whatsoever telling other people about the splinter in their eye never realizing that I have a HUGE log in my own eye.
Why am I telling you something that is so obvious? Because it’s so obvious we all forget about it.
We are all here becuase we want to be better, we want to be more, we want to get more out of life and help our children be better people.
So then why do we spend so much time and energy pointing out other peoples problems and ignore our own? Why do we think that we can be better so long as we focus on what is wrong with other people more than we focus on what is wrong with us?
Is it possible? Is that why we all get stuck in a rut and can’t/don’t make any forward progress?
I think it’s possible yes.
So how do we do it? How do we focus on our problems more? That’s the simple part to me…everytime you see somebody else’s problem instead of talking about it, gossiping about it or even feeling a little smug because somebody else has a problem; instead look inside yourself and see if you have that same problem or a problem similar to it.
Oh wait a minute, are you talking about actually taking a good honest look at ourselves? Why YEs I am!
Does that scare you as much as it scares me? Does that make you uncomfortable? GOOD! It should.
It is so easy to watch the TV news, read the newspaper or slow down and gape at a car accident and feel like “wow I’m glad my life isn’t that bad!”
Why not turn that around? Why not think “okay, do I do that?” when you have to suffer through a conversation with a person that is a one-upper?
How about saying a prayer when you pass an accident and ask God to be with that person in their time of need and say thanks because “there but for the Grace of God go I”
It alls comes down to this: We can’t be better until we squarely and honestly see what our problems are and begin to work through them.
The first step in that process is to stop focusing on other peoples problems and turn that magnifying glass back onto ourselves.
Notice that I didn’t say it was easy, I said it was simple…there is a big, big difference.
Is it worth the time, trouble and effort involved? Only if you truly and deeply want to get more from your life and be a better person.
Take that first step and see how you feel about yourself once you are able to see somebody else’s problems, not judge or comment on it and then turn it back onto yourself.
I am sure you will be surprised by what you find and you have to know you have a problem before you can begin to fix it!