Those of us who have raised children and grandchildren always discover the hard way how they learn. We strive to teach them and send them to schools with the expectation of even greater knowledge gained there. But in truth they learn about real life through how they see us and the other people around them live day to day. Is that wrong? No, it’s the way of life. But the best we can do?
Schools do not even attempt to instruct our youth in the things that matter most. After the old “three Rs” (reading, ‘riting, and ‘rithmetic) we give them some science, history, geography, etc. At home well intentioned parents are generally too consumed with just surviving to spend much time in any instruction past the utter basics. Quite literally NO ONE is teaching the future of the world budget/finance, relationships, attitude, how to think (as opposed to what to think), how to make a difference/matter, and last but certainly not least, how to achieve – to lift yourself up without putting others down in the process. What direction will the world head if the powers to come never learn these things? Perhaps the troubles we are experiencing right now stem from this very issue.
It’s up to us to change all this. And the only way to start is NOT to begin with our children – it is to take control of our own learning. You can not give what you do not have. The worst possible individual to supervise/manage a job situation is someone who has never done that job. There are some exceptions to that, but not many. The teacher who runs a class in business start ups but has never been in business is does not belong there. It is time to take a close look at the ‘life learning’ we are getting every day thoughtlessly.
Who and what is schooling us? When you stop going to school you do not cease learning. That only comes with death. Every newspaper, tv show, book, magazine, song, conversation, movie, and uncontrolled thought is teaching/reinforcing/programming us. There is no doubt of this. All of these can be controlled by personal choice. People in general do not think they can change themselves. How many times have you heard or even said yourself, “That’s just the way I am.” That sad comment is used to explain anger, jealousy, laziness, and even overwhelming debt. The truth is more likely, “It’s the only way I know how to be, and I don’t think I can change.”
In reality we can control our input and thereby learn to become the person we want to be. That’s right. You can become the type of individual that you admire. Will it be easy? No. But it is simple. Allow me to boil the process down for you.
1. Take a good honest look at where you are in the areas of Family, Finance, Career, Spiritual, Personal Development, Relaxation, Health, and Legacy. These are just suggestions to get started.
2. Determine the aspects you want to work on most. or first.
3. Develop a goal of who you want to become. What sort of person would you be if you could? A better parent and spouse? One who is well respected at work? Healthy and debt free?
4. Begin to eliminate all the drains in your life and replace them with positive inputs. Most news (tv, paper, net, etc.) caters to the negative. Strive to avoid that. When you read anything seek out uplifting and instructional sources. Do you really need to read or listen to the news? If something important happens do you really believe you won’t hear about it? If you don’t know any good material to start with you are in the right place! Acres of Diamonds is perfect. There will be more to come and I will post a general reading list in the future. Here is the thing……read anything that can move you in the direction you want to go. Are you married? How long since you read a book on improving your relationship? Study success stories, if others did it, so can you.
5. Try to move away from negative degrading music and video and toward uplifting fare. Turn off the radio in the car and turn it into a travelling university by listening to books on cd.
6. Do not focus all your effort in only one area. Rotate things. Ben Franklin developed 13 principles in his life he wanted to work on. He would focus on a different one each month.
7. Don’t give up. You got to where you are over time. It will not take as long as that to change if you focus and “do not grow weary in doing well.”
Consider this: “Your life is yours alone. Rise up and live it.” -Terry Goodkind
Stay a Student of Winning.